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The World Through The Eyes of a Sober Person- Sobriety, Spirituality and my honeymoon

Posted on 28 March, 2017 at 20:55

The time around my honeymoon was the most incredible, expansive and life-changing periods of my existence. Having gotten married to my amazing wife and trekking to one of our favourite places on Earth together for our honeymoon, I had no idea how much my life was going to change in such a short period of time. The 3 most significant changes of my life happened in the span of 3 weeks and altered my trajectory so significantly that I cannot comprehend how my life might look like at this moment had I not taken these paths……


The first was obviously getting married to my soul mate. We both had said when we were first hanging out that neither one of us wanted a commitment, yet here we were getting married to each other just 2 years later. It was an incredible weekend long ceremony and celebration in a beautiful place at a perfect time of year for weather.


2 days after that we took off to stay in a million dollar house by the water between Cairns and Port Douglas for 2 weeks of wedded bliss. After kicking around and relaxing for a few days we decided to head into the city and do some shopping. We happened to walk into a spiritual bookstore called ‘Crystal Ball’ and as I was having some neck issues (potentially from all the headbanging I’d been doing in my band for the previous 6 years or so) and my wife suggested to have a Reiki treatment. I was keen and went and spoke to the lady in the store who in turn had a chat with this French Reiki Master, or so I thought…..


When we walked in to the room we sat down and he got out Tarot cards and spread them on the table. ‘I don’t really know what Reiki is yet but I didn’t think it was this’ I thought to myself. But rather than say anything, something told me that what was happening was or a reason and was what I needed. So he laid the cards out and did his thing and I knew this was what I’d been waiting for my whole life (in this incarnation). He was incredibly intuitive and smashed me with some serious truths and insights about myself up until that point and questions I had had for many years and shone the light of clarity on them.


I walked out of there on cloud 9! Nicole had left the store already with a couple of books and was waiting for me out the front where I pretty much floated out with the biggest smile on my face! ‘What happened in there?’ she asked as I tried to put it into words. ‘I’m not even sure but this is exactly what I have been waiting for my whole life’ I replied.


After that we talked and talked for hours about how incredibly instrumental and healing Nicole’s spiritual work had been when she was a teenager and after 2 and all the synchronistic experiences which lead us to where we were then. It was amazing that after 2 years together sharing so much of ourselves to each other and an endless stream of conversation about what I thought was pretty much everything, I had never known of Nicole’s spiritual side.


My life totally opened up right at that moment as I found what I’d been on the cusp of my whole life….then about 3 days later, on the last night of our honeymoon, I made the decision that I was done with alcohol. ‘I can’t do this shit anymore’ I said, and grabbed the remaining booze which we had in the house and poured it down the sink. I had tried numerous times over the years but this time was different. That ritual sealed the deal and here I am nearly 8 years to the day without a drop.


I didn’t know how I was going to go with it, but it didn’t matter. I was coming back from our honeymoon a married and sober man. My wife said she’d of course support me through it and said she’d be sober with me for at least the first few months. I was grateful to her for that and thanked her for her support during which was going to be an interesting period of time and integration. After a short while I said I was ok to fly on my own and that Nicole could return to the bottle if she wanted, yet she opted out also for quite a lengthy period of time herself, before finally giving it the boot now 6 years ago in May. Our relationship was forged on some serious foundations at this point and has gone from strength to strength. It hasn’t been without its struggles of course, but both being sober and clearheaded, aswell as on the spiritual path has been absolutely instrumental in that. I can’t imagine where we’d be otherwise…..


Until next time

Christian L Doherty

 

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